Rooted & Reckoned

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  • Godly Friendships

    I don’t need a pocket full of gravel if I have a few gems.

    I wrote this as encouragement to a former coworker the other day while expressing gratitude for her friendship. Even I’m surprised that I can occasionally be poetic—as this just came from my fingers to my phone while texting.

    If we pause to think about this, we often find ourselves collecting something—anything—including “friends.” I use quotes because we have to realize that not everybody we are seemingly friendly with is actually a friend. Most of us probably think, “Yeah, that’s common sense,” even as we collect them as tokens via Facebook or other social platforms, still referring to them as friends. Probably much less rude than saying, “This guy I know, Joe,” but honestly, not terribly realistic.

    Humans are social creatures, to be sure, though we all need solitude as well—even the most outgoing of extroverts. I tend to be very outgoing, but I find myself becoming increasingly guarded. I’m not a cynic, I don’t think—but I’m finding that I resonate more with stoicism these days.

    Tracy Lawrence recorded a song called “Find Out Who Your Friends Are” (written by Casey Beathard and Ed Hill¹) in which he expresses a truth we all recognize:

    “Everybody wants to slap your back Wants to shake your hand When you’re up on top of that mountain But let one of those rocks give way Then you slide back down Look up and see who’s around then… This ain’t where the road comes to an end This ain’t where the bandwagon stops This is just one of those times when A lot of folks jump off.”

    We’ve all experienced it, and the number-one place it happens is often work. I’ve started to categorize these folks as “work friends.” Maybe this is obvious to everyone else and I’m just learning, but I’m pretty outgoing. I even joked with a friend (ironically, a true friend I met at work) that I’m about to be: “Wife, child, child, orange cat, cat with thumbs, clingy female cat, and to heck with everybody else.”

    Why?

    On November 3, 2025—just a couple of days before my birthday—I was called into an unexpected meeting and informed that my role was eliminated. I was about 90% surprised, given some of the reorganizations that had already been happening, but I had assumed my specialized licenses would protect me.

    I was wrong.

    I was simply told, “You’re done. Here’s HR, severance information, get off our network, goodbye.”

    I get it—corporations, even those that talk about being compassionate and caring, are cold-blooded. I have opinions on all of this, but I will keep them to myself for several reasons, as they are very uncharitable.

    I sat for a few moments to gather my thoughts, told my wife, and then texted a couple of people I thought were on my side. Then I sat on my couch in disbelief. I had believed I was at the company I was going to retire from, in a role I was good at, with solid support. This was not to be, and that’s fine—I won’t lie and say I hold no ill will, as I am puzzled why I was selected. Those who remained simply are not qualified—literally—to do my job.

    Please note: I was almost immediately offered three positions at three different places and was hired very quickly. I chose to stay away from work until December 1 to reset, to make sure I didn’t carry forward any bitterness. The only downside is that my body had become accustomed to, “I’ll get up whenever I darn well please, thank you,” so waking up for my first day at the new company was a bit of a struggle. While I actually took the lowest offer, which was a substantial cut from my previous role, I should end up earning more overall.

    I initially heard from nearly everybody I reached out to. Then reality slapped me in the face—they stopped. Not all, but the ones I thought were my closest allies, including one who claimed I was their best friend.

    I know the usual excuse: “It’s awkward.” I reached out and said, “I’m the same dope I was at 2 this afternoon (the meeting was at 2:15), no reason to be weird.” Several didn’t respond—somewhat surprising.

    Even worse, the majority of these folks claimed to be my biggest supporters… and worse still: “Christians.”

    I’ve long since realized that those who make it a point to talk “Jesus this” and “God that” in a work context are often disingenuous—especially when it’s clear that their faith is performative. The most verbal abuse I ever got from customers often came from emails like ILoveJesus@God.com or PastorJimmy@FirstChurchofKindleCounty.net. I wish I were kidding, but I am not.

    Look, I wasn’t the company pastor, and none of these folks were my congregation. If they’d said, “You suck, hail Cthulu,” it wouldn’t have bothered me. But sadly, performative faith is real. As Craig Groeschel said in The Christian Atheist, people love to talk about how spiritual they are when they find out they’re with clergy, yet give clear indications that they do not truly know Jesus.²

    In my case, it showed in attitude and behavior—only treating me kindly if they needed something, bragging about nightly inebriation, and so on.

    But the worst were the liars—and I’m not talking about spiritual things, but provable lies about others. All the while, they smiled in your face… meaning they were almost certainly bashing you behind your back.

    The “best friend” did this to me, and while I cannot prove it, I’m confident it was a primary reason I was selected for elimination. (Note: I am taking steps to ensure accountability. I have zero interest in returning to the company, but if there isn’t any accountability, who knows who else might be damaged?)

    I won’t go into too many details, other than to say a letter was received and it seems I was accused of being its sender—and I was called “irate” in a meeting when no such thing occurred. The problem is this is the epitome of “he said, she said,” and since no investigation was completed, their word was taken as truth. (Please note: I rarely lose my temper, and when I do, it’s likely because WVU is playing poorly because, you know, reasons.)

    I do have a point to all of this, and it may sound like a pitch for stoicism: when I was injured at the U.S. Air Force Academy, I learned that nobody has your best interests at heart except YOU. This isn’t strictly true—my wife, children, parents, in-laws, and our collective grandparents do—but work folks? Not a chance. And this shouldn’t surprise anyone.

    Want to know who knows this best? Yeah…Christ.

    I am not saying this is identical to my situation, but consider the track of Jesus’ relationships:

    1. Jesus fed thousands with a few loaves and fish . He had thousands wanting to see and hear Him.
    2. That number diminished to hundreds when things got difficult (see the aftermath of the Transfiguration and the hard teachings, e.g., John 6:60–66).
    3. Then there were twelve—His original apostles .
    4. Then three in the Garden of Gethsemane .
    5. And only one—John—at the foot of the cross .

    Top of the mountain? People will want to be with you. But when it gets hard? Not a chance.

    So, while I write this partly for catharsis, I caution you as a man of faith to protect yourself: yes, we serve, love (agape), teach, and reach out. Just don’t pretend that everyone you contact is your friend. And this is biblical—you must be willing to brush the dust off and leave .

    Remember:

    • Proverbs 13:20: “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
    • 1 Thessalonians 5:11: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
    • Galatians 6:9: “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

    Choose your companions wisely, guard your heart, and continue to walk in faith. True friends—those grounded in Christ—are gems worth holding onto.

    ¹ “Find Out Who Your Friends Are” – Words and music by Casey Beathard and Ed Hill, © 2006 (Sony/ATV Music Publishing). ² Craig Groeschel, The Christian Atheist: Believing in God but Living as If He Doesn’t Exist (Zondervan, 2010).

  • Marriage: Beyond the Myths

    Marriage is one of the most profound commitments we can make, a covenant rooted in love, sacrifice, and faith. After twenty-six years of marriage, I don’t claim expertise, but I have learned enough—through both joy and hardship—to recognize some of the falsehoods that undermine many marriages today. My hope is that what follows will be both practical and biblical, offering encouragement for those seeking a deeper, stronger union.

    Falsehood 1: Marriage is a 50-50 Proposition

    This idea is so untrue it is almost laughable. If marriage were only 50-50, each spouse would be holding something back, reserving half of themselves for…what? Pride? Independence? Selfishness?

    Consider how Paul describes the husband’s calling:

    Ephesians 5:25–28 — Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

    That’s not 50-50. That’s 100-100. Marriage is about both spouses giving their all, holding nothing back, because two become one flesh. Anything less is shortchanging the covenant.

    And men—paying the bills, mowing the lawn, and sitting in the recliner doesn’t cut it. If that’s all you want out of marriage, why not just hire a maid? Oh right—children. They don’t “just happen.” And when we fail to invest emotionally and spiritually in our families, we risk becoming what psychologists call “the ghost in the household”—physically present but emotionally absent. That absence wounds children deeply.

    Falsehood 2: “Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child” Means God Approves of Beating Children

    This misquote has done lasting harm. Proverbs does speak of the “rod,” but the Hebrew word shebet has a broader meaning. It was a shepherd’s tool—for correction, yes, but also for guidance and protection. David writes in Psalm 23:4, “Your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” Comfort, not cruelty.

    The New Testament reinforces this. The Greek word paideia (discipline) means training, instruction, and character formation. Discipline is about growth, not retribution.

    Hitting children usually teaches three lessons: anger justifies aggression, power decides what’s right, and rules are about avoiding pain—not about wisdom. Spanking may bring short-term compliance, but it damages trust, fuels aggression, and stunts self-control. Instead, Scripture points to another way:

    Deuteronomy 6:6–7 — These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

    This is the model: steady, loving instruction. Children learn far more from consistent guidance than from fear.

    Falsehood 3: “I’m the Man, What I Say Goes”

    This distortion comes from misreading Ephesians 5. Yes, Paul writes, “Wives, submit to your husbands” (v. 22). But in the very same passage, he commands believers to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (v. 21). And husbands are told to lay down their lives for their wives.

    That’s not authoritarian rule—it’s sacrificial leadership. In my own marriage, I finally grasped this truth when I realized: if it matters to my wife, then it matters—because she matters. That’s not weakness; that’s Christlike love.

    What I’ve realized is that most of the things that people end up fighting about–the color of the sheets (my wife will say “I want these but they’re pink…” and I’ll say “what do I care? I don’t pay attention when I’m unconscious.”) or what to watch on TV, etc., are minor and not worth getting upset about.

    The big things? Sure, but I have found that we are typically on the same page, and when we’re not, we talk it through.

    Why Marriages Fail

    Even with divorce rates slowly declining, nearly half of marriages still end. Studies show 73% of divorced couples cite “lack of commitment” as the main reason, and nearly half point to communication breakdown. Those are not “irreconcilable differences”—those are choices, daily choices, to stop listening, to stop caring, to stop giving 100-100.

    The truth is simple: marriages break down when we forget why we married in the first place. They grow strong when we recommit every day, when we decide again and again: if it matters to my spouse, it matters to me. And above all, when we remember the covenant we made before God.

    Conclusion

    Marriage is not about keeping score or holding power. It is about covenant, sacrifice, and love that reflects Christ’s love for the church. The myths of 50-50 compromise, harsh discipline, and domineering authority all distort God’s vision. The real picture is far richer: two people giving all of themselves to one another, raising children with wisdom and love, and walking together in faith.

    My own marriage has not been perfect—no marriage is. But with each passing year, by God’s grace, it has grown stronger, rooted in love, listening, and the daily choice to honor the covenant we made. And that is a truth worth holding onto.

  • The Greek Says…Actually, No It Doesn’t

    To paraphrase Greek scholar Bill Mounce:

    “One of the most dangerous things a teacher or pastor can say is, ‘The Greek says…’”

    Why? Because many who say it don’t actually know what the Greek says—they’re just repeating something they’ve heard. And if they’re wrong, they can seriously distort the meaning of Scripture.

    So, what should we do? If you’re going to use Greek to teach others, either:

    1. Learn it for yourself, or
    2. Speak very carefully and humbly.

    ⚙️ My Background

    I studied introductory Koine Greek at Nazarene Theological Seminary under Professor Derek Davis. I also have occasional text access to Dr. Andy Johnson, a senior professor at NTS. I’ve worked through Bill Mounce’s Biblical Greek course, and I continue to learn and grow.

    I’m no scholar—but I know enough to see how Greek is sometimes misused to suppress others or to prop up a theology that doesn’t hold up when placed against the broader witness of Scripture.

    Let’s look at a few commonly misunderstood examples.

    1. John 1:1 — Is Jesus God or “a god”?

    Greek (with transliteration):

    Ἐν ἀρχῇ ἦν ὁ Λόγος,
    καὶ ὁ Λόγος ἦν πρὸς τὸν Θεόν,
    καὶ Θεὸς ἦν ὁ Λόγος
    En archē ēn ho Logos, kai ho Logos ēn pros ton Theon, kai Theos ēn ho Logos

    English (ESV):

    “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.”

    The issue:

    Some claim that because Theos (Θεὸς) lacks the article “ho” (ὁ, “the”) in the final phrase, it should be translated “the Word was a god”—suggesting Jesus is a lesser divine being.

    This is the view, for example, of Jehovah’s Witnesses, who deny the full deity of Christ.

    The response:

    In Greek, when a predicate noun (like God) comes before the verb, it often drops the article to emphasize quality or essence, not indefiniteness. So John is saying:

    “The Word was divine in nature.”

    Context confirms this:

    • John 20:28 – “My Lord and my God!”
    • Colossians 2:9 – “In Him all the fullness of deity dwells bodily.”

    💡 Greek grammar rules matter—and so does context.

    2. Romans 16:7 — Was Junia a Female Apostle?

    Greek:

    Ἀσπάσασθε Ἀνδρόνικον καὶ Ἰουνίαν, τοὺς συγγενεῖς μου καὶ συναιχμαλώτους μου, οἵτινές εἰσιν ἐπίσημοι ἐν τοῖς ἀποστόλοις
    Aspasasthe Andronikon kai Iounian, tous suggeneis mou kai sunaichmalōtous mou, hoitines eisin episēmoi en tois apostolois

    English (ESV):

    “Greet Andronicus and Junia, my kinsmen and fellow prisoners. They are well known to the apostles, and they were in Christ before me.”

    The issue:

    Some translations change Iounian (Ἰουνίαν) to Junias (a male name), arguing that a female apostle would be too problematic. However, Junia is a well-attested female name in the Roman world, while Junias is not found in ancient sources.

    The grammar:

    The Greek phrase ἐπίσημοι ἐν τοῖς ἀποστόλοις is best translated:

    “Well known among the apostles,”
    not merely “known to the apostles.”

    Even early church fathers like Chrysostom recognized Junia as a female apostle.

    Why it matters:

    This verse is evidence of female leadership in the early church. Distorting her name or role minimizes the contributions of women and reshapes early Christian history.

    3. 1 Timothy 2:12 — A Ban on All Female Authority?

    Greek:

    διδάσκειν δὲ γυναικὶ οὐκ ἐπιτρέπω, οὐδὲ αὐθεντεῖν ἀνδρός, ἀλλ’ εἶναι ἐν ἡσυχίᾳ
    Didaskein de gynaiki ouk epitrepō, oude authentein andros, all’ einai en hēsuchia

    English (ESV):

    “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.”

    The issue:

    This verse is often used to forbid women from teaching or leading men. But the issue is the rare Greek verb αὐθεντεῖν (authentein).

    This word is used only here in the entire New Testament. It does not mean general or healthy authority—that would be ἐξουσία (exousia).

    Instead, authentein likely carried a negative connotation, such as:

    • “to dominate”
    • “to usurp authority”
    • “to act on one’s own authority”

    The context:

    Paul may have been addressing a local issue in Ephesus, where false teaching and goddess worship (Artemis) were major concerns. This is not a universal, timeless ban on female leadership.

    Why it matters:

    If we misread authentein as “any authority,” we can wrongly suppress women’s gifts and ignore clear examples of female leaders in the New Testament.

    4. Galatians 3:28 — Just About Salvation?

    Greek:

    οὐκ ἔνι Ἰουδαῖος οὐδὲ Ἕλλην, οὐκ ἔνι δοῦλος οὐδὲ ἐλεύθερος, οὐκ ἔνι ἄρσεν καὶ θῆλυ· πάντες γὰρ ὑμεῖς εἷς ἐστε ἐν Χριστῷ Ἰησοῦ
    Ouk eni Ioudaios oude Hellēn, ouk eni doulos oude eleutheros, ouk eni arsen kai thēly; pantes gar hymeis heis este en Christō Iēsou

    English (ESV):

    “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

    The issue:

    Some argue that Paul is speaking only of salvation status—not about ministry roles or social function. But the phrase ἄρσεν καὶ θῆλυ (male and female) echoes Genesis 1:27, the creation of humans as male and female.

    This suggests Paul is undoing divisions from creation and cultural hierarchy—not just offering a “spiritual” truth.

    Why it matters:

    Limiting this to salvation alone supports traditional hierarchies. But read in context, it affirms equal status, dignity, and calling for all people in Christ—across gender, race, and class lines.

    🧠 Final Thought

    I’ll explore each of these more deeply in future posts. But here’s the main point:

    ⚠️ It’s dangerous to act like an expert on Greek when you aren’t.
    And it’s even more dangerous to teach false doctrine built on half-truths or wishful thinking.

    We all bring assumptions to the Bible. But we must constantly test those assumptions—using sound tools, trusted scholarship, and the whole witness of Scripture.

    Sometimes, “The Greek says…” becomes a weapon. But when used well, it should be a key to understanding, not a tool for control.

  • The Bible Wasn’t Written To You (But It Was Written For You)

    Romans 15:4 – “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.”

    There’s a mistake many well-meaning Christians make—especially when they’re new to reading the Bible:

    They treat it like it was written to them—directly, personally, in modern English, with all the nuance of their own culture.

    But here’s the truth:

    The Bible wasn’t written to you.
    It was written for you.

    That’s not just a clever turn of phrase—it’s a critical distinction.

    The Bible Is a Library, Not a Letter

    The Bible isn’t a single book—it’s 66. Written over 1,500+ years, by dozens of authors, in three languages, across multiple genres, and addressed to real people in real historical contexts.

    • Genesis wasn’t written to Americans.
    • Leviticus wasn’t written to your youth group—so stop using it to condemn people.
    • Jeremiah 29:11 wasn’t written to your graduating class.
    • 1 Corinthians wasn’t written to you—it was written to a messy, chaotic first-century church trying to live for Christ in a culture that didn’t understand them.
    • Revelation doesn’t exist to make us the star of the show. It’s apocalyptic literature—symbolism written to comfort persecuted believers, not a codebook for modern politics or conspiracy theories.

    But even though these books weren’t written to you—they were written for you.

    They show how God works, what God values, how humans respond, and how we’re invited to live. But to apply them rightly, you must understand the context.

    Context Isn’t Optional—It’s Obedience

    2 Timothy 2:15 says to rightly divide the word of truth. That means we don’t get to twist Scripture to fit our preferences or reduce it to motivational soundbites. Doing the work isn’t legalism—it’s discipleship.

    A few common examples:

    • Jeremiah 29:11 isn’t a promise that God has “great plans” for your next job interview. It’s a message to exiles in Babylon, assuring them of restoration after 70 years. It’s about long-haul hope, not quick fixes.
    • Philippians 4:13 doesn’t mean you’ll win the big game. Paul wrote it from prison, saying he had learned to be content in every circumstance. It’s not about strength to achieve—it’s about strength to endure. And not minor inconveniences—Paul was in chains, literally in a Roman sewer.
    • Matthew 7:1 says, “Judge not, that you be not judged,” but the passage goes on to teach how to judge rightly. Jesus doesn’t ban discernment—He bans hypocrisy.

    When we ignore context, we don’t just misunderstand the Bible—we risk misrepresenting God.

    Why This Matters

    When we treat the Bible like a self-help book or a grab bag of quotes, we make it smaller than it really is. Worse, when we cherry-pick verses to prove our narrow points, we misuse Scripture to reinforce our image instead of being conformed to His.

    Context always matters.

    But when we ask, “What did this mean to them?” before “What does this mean to me?”, we unlock the power and beauty the Holy Spirit embedded in every passage.

    The Bible has authority—but we must handle it with humility.

    • We are not the center of Scripture—Jesus is.
    • We are not the heroes—we are the rescued.

    So What Do We Do?

    1. Study faithfully. Don’t just read devotionally—read intentionally. Ask who wrote it, to whom, why, and when.
    2. Use tools. A good study Bible, commentary, or Bible dictionary can help you go deeper.
    3. Ask better questions:
      • What does this teach me about God?
      • What does this reveal about human nature?
      • How does this point to Jesus?
    4. Live it. Scripture isn’t for winning arguments—it’s for shaping lives. Your life may be the clearest “translation” some people ever read.

    You are the living testimony. People see Jesus more clearly (or more distorted) through you.

    The Bible wasn’t written to you—but by God’s grace, it was absolutely written for you.

    Handle it well.
    Learn it deeply.
    Live it truthfully.

    And let it shape not just your answers—but your heart.

  • The Genuine Reveals The Counterfeit

    Titus 1:9

    He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.

    1 Timothy 4:13–16

    Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to exhortation, to teaching. Do not neglect the gift you have, which was given you by prophecy when the council of elders laid their hands on you. Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress. Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers.

    2 Timothy 4:1–4

    I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who is to judge the living and the dead… preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching. For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching… they will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.

    There are times when I like to ask people, “What is the primary job of the Secret Service?” or “Why were they created in the first place?”

    Almost everyone answers: “To protect the president.”

    Yes, they do protect the president and other officials. That’s the job most people recognize—ironically, because it’s supposed to be invisible. But even that duty largely involves coordinating with other agencies: local police, National Guard, etc.

    So what is their original, primary function?

    Protecting the United States’ financial system.
    The Secret Service was founded shortly after the Civil War to combat the rampant counterfeiting that threatened to destabilize the economy.

    Here’s the key insight: to learn how to detect counterfeit money, agents don’t study the fakes—they study the genuine article. Fakes come in endless varieties, but there’s only one authentic. Know it intimately, and the phony versions become obvious.

    The same goes for Scripture.

    We’ve all heard people quote, “God won’t give you more than you can handle.”

    Can you find that verse?

    Take your time—I’ll wait.

    You won’t find it. It’s not there.

    Same with Matthew 7:1. People love to quote, “Don’t judge, or you will be judged,” but they often ignore the rest of the passage. While the command is indeed a caution about judging, Jesus adds a qualifier: You’ll be judged by the same standard you use on others.

    So if you’re hyper-focused on someone else’s sexual sin, maybe keep your own browsing history accountable. If you’re vocal about alcohol, take stock of your own intoxicants—whether that’s prescription meds, food, social media, or even your pride.

    This isn’t about being flippant, and it’s not an argument for moral relativism.
    But it is a reminder: these verses are directed first and foremost at believers.

    Let’s get real: if your way of expressing love to someone is by metaphorically beating them with a Bible-bat, don’t be surprised when they recoil. Many people who are far from Christ already know they’re off-track. Most don’t feel great about it. They don’t need help feeling worse.

    They need to see hope, mercy, and truth—and those only come from someone who has been changed by the Word.

    Before we go around correcting people, shouldn’t we first have a real encounter with Scripture ourselves?

    Being “ready in and out of season” isn’t just a catchy phrase—it’s a calling that takes work.
    Daily study. Daily surrender. Daily transformation.

    The beautiful part? When you immerse yourself in God’s Word, it changes you. You become spiritually saturated—“baptized” in the truest sense of the word (Greek: baptizó means “to submerge, to dip into”). You begin to carry His aroma, and that becomes attractive to others without you forcing it.

    And when error comes—and it will—you’ll be ready. You’ll recognize twisted truth, ear-tickling messages, and shallow clichés because they won’t sound like your Shepherd.

    That’s why I encourage people to ask others to show them chapter and verse when a “scripture” is quoted. You’d be amazed how many so-called “verses” simply don’t exist. What’s even more concerning is how often real Scripture is weaponized—used not to convict or correct in love, but to abuse, exclude, or control.

    If your use of Scripture is about keeping people down—women, LGBTQ individuals, alcoholics, whoever—you’re using it wrong.

    What’s the overarching message of Scripture?

    Love God. Love people.

    Immerse yourself in that truth, and the counterfeits won’t stand a chance.

  • Overcoming Overzealous Apologetics Syndrome

    1 Peter 3:15–16

    “But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.”

    1 Corinthians 2:4–5

    “My speech and my message were not in plausible words of wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power, so that your faith might not rest in the wisdom of men but in the power of God.”

    2 Timothy 2:24–26

    “And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth…”

    I make no secret of the fact that I thoroughly enjoy reading and listening to Dr. William Lane Craig and other apologetics heavyweights in the Christian faith. When I first came to know Jesus, I thought that apologetics would be the tool to convince the world—“Jesus is real,” “He was who He said He was,” and so on.

    Then I grew up spiritually.

    One thing that helped shift my thinking was actually something Dr. Craig said: “We’re not here to win arguments; we’re here to win people.” That might not be word-for-word, but it stuck with me. Because if you can argue someone into the faith, someone else can argue them right back out.

    I have two Master’s degrees in theology—one in Practical Theology from Ohio Christian University, and the other an MA(TS) from Nazarene Theological Seminary. Because of that, I’m especially sensitive when people misuse Scripture, twist it, or take verses out of context to make them say something they don’t.

    One of the most often misapplied verses in apologetics circles is 1 Peter 3:15. It’s often held up as the definitive call to apologetics. And while it certainly supports the practice, many people miss the nuance.

    Let’s look closely:

    “Always be prepared to make a defense…”
    Yes—but it says to make a defense for your faith, your hope. Not necessarily to argue the faith in every possible direction. Answer people’s questions. Don’t launch a theological assault.

    If I come at you with:
    “How can you not believe?! Jesus is a historical figure! Here’s the cosmological argument, the fine-tuning argument, the moral argument…”
    I’ve already put you on the defensive—and defensive people generally don’t listen.

    The second half of that verse—“with gentleness and respect”—is even more important, and often ignored. When Peter adds, “so that when you are slandered,” he’s warning that unbelievers are watching for Christians to slip up. If we come across as arrogant, aggressive, or overbearing, we’re not only ineffective—we become the stereotype they expected.

    Yes, the Bible supports apologetics. But notice how it’s used:

    • Always in response to genuine questions.
    • Often as encouragement for those who already believe.

    For example, in Luke 24:27, Jesus walks with disciples and explains how the Scriptures point to Him—after they’ve already been shaken by the crucifixion. He’s building them up, not proving a point to strangers.

    And as for using Paul as the apologetics model—yes, Paul was incredibly intelligent and knew the Law inside and out. But when he addressed the philosophers at Mars Hill (Acts 17), he didn’t know every god they worshiped. What he did know was how people behaved. He observed the culture, found a relatable entry point, and pivoted to Christ.

    And when Paul reasoned “from the Scriptures,” he was in the synagogue—in other words, with people who already believed in the authority of the Scriptures.

    So, What’s the Point of Apologetics?

    The defense of the faith is best used:

    • To strengthen believers.
    • To answer genuine questions from seekers.

    It’s not meant to be a first strike or a debate trophy.
    It’s certainly not meant to feed ego.

    We should absolutely study cultural context (and I’ll be writing more on 1 Corinthians 14:34–36 soon—spoiler alert: it’s not a ban on women speaking or leading). But apologetics should never be our first step.

    That would be like answering questions no one asked.
    If I start telling you all about John Wilkes Booth, but you were asking about Calvin Coolidge, I’m not helping—I’m just talking.

    So What Is Helpful?

    Know your Bible. Know it intimately.
    And live it.

    That’s what makes the biggest difference.

    Not how clever your arguments are.

    Not how many books you’ve read.

    Not how many debates you think you’ve won.

    If you want to represent Christ, you don’t need to be the smartest person in the room.
    You need to be the most humble, the most honest, the most Christlike.

    And that’s how we overcome Overzealous Apologetics Syndrome.

  • When Jesus Says, ‘I Never Knew You’: A Wake-Up Call to the Church

    Luke 3:17 – “His winnowing fork is in his hand to clear his threshing floor and to gather the wheat into his barn, but he will burn up the chaff with unquenchable fire.”
    Matthew 7:21-23 – “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven… Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’”
    Revelation 3:14-16 – “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

    These verses aren’t aimed at atheists. They’re not for people who reject God outright. They’re for us—those who claim to know Him. Those who say, “Lord, Lord.”

    Jesus often reserved His harshest warnings for the religious. He called the Pharisees a brood of vipers. He chastised Nicodemus—a Sanhedrin member—for not understanding what it meant to be born again. So what makes us think His warnings don’t apply to our churches?

    Revelation 3 isn’t a “come to Jesus” altar call—it’s a “return to Jesus” cry aimed at a dead church. Hot water has value. Cold water refreshes. Lukewarm? It gets spit out. It’s not useful for anything.

    So yes—these warnings are for the church. For the people who say, “I know Jesus.” But do you really? The word Jesus uses in Matthew 7:23 is γινώσκω (ginōskō). It doesn’t mean, “I’ve heard of you.” It’s not about recognition or surface-level faith. It’s the word used to describe deep, personal, intimate knowledge. The same verb often used in Scripture to refer to the act of marital union—“Adam knew Eve.”

    That’s the kind of relationship Christ wants—not fans in the stands, but disciples in the field. Not people who checked a salvation box, but people who were transformed, discipled, and sent.

    There’s a well-worn truth in church life: 10% of the people do 90% of the work. And many in that 90% think they’re fine because they show up, said a prayer once, or avoid the “big sins.” But they remain unchanged. And true saving faith always changes you.

    Here’s the part that should really shake us: on judgment day, many will say, “But I sang on the worship team!” “I taught Sunday School!” “I gave to the poor!” And Jesus will respond—not “I forgot you,” but “I never γινώσκω’d you.” Never knew you at all.

    And that man or woman you silently judged—the one with the tattoos, or the one who struggles, or the one you thought was beneath you? They may walk into eternity to a “Well done, good and faithful servant,” while others are left stunned outside the gate.

    Let that sink in.